If you love someone, you want as much as possible to be with this man, catching his eyes, hear his voice, feel the heat ... Even brief separation from loved ones is painful, and seems endless. What can we say about the long-term separation? Now people are extremely mobile. They are all the time somewhere to go, often parted with their elected representatives for a long time. Relationship at a distance - an ordeal, which can not stand each couple in love. At the same time, separation is a test of the depth of feeling, and it can be rightly regarded as the test of true love. It turns out that it is still necessary? Perhaps, yes. However, parted for a long time, it is necessary to have an idea of how distance affects the relationship. That's what we are, and we'll talk.
The negative side of a long parting lovers
Relationship at a distance involve not only the union of loving people especially when they parted for a long time. There are couples, all originally residing in different localities and even countries. They communicate through the Internet or mobile communication and is rarely seen. It's quite a strange relationship. To support this type of long-distance relationship is not easy. Favorite people like to eat, and, at the same time, as if it does not. When people get used to living together to be close together to solve something, and do something. The two of them are going through good and bad and adapt to one another. Those who have never met, usually do not adjust their aspirations and desire to each other.
Such relations are developing according to its laws. They may not go beyond the virtual confession and romantic letters to each other. And after a time, in the end, smoothly and safely come to naught. But may develop into a deep and sincere feeling that, in the end, will be the basis for a family. In this case, talk of separation does not make sense. She attended and initially served as a matter of fact, the impetus for further communication.
As for those who have lived side by side, there is the separation of something similar to the gap between the lovers. They have to relearn how to live alone - apart from one another to eat, sleep, walk-in guests. Prolonged separation in the depths of the human mind often creates a strong feeling that he was really a loner. The feeling is illusory. However, it can have a detrimental effect on the perception of reality. Guided by the internal state of loneliness, people instinctively begins to look a pair.
No Search couples does not necessarily mean a betrayal. People have enough moral it usually comes down to finding interesting in communication member of the opposite sex. But who can guarantee that in a time of companionship does not turn into a closer union? After physiology has not been canceled. Long-distance relationship and real sex with someone you love are incompatible. This can be a maddening anyone.
I must say that the one who remains heavier than leave. For him, everything remained the same, except for one - not near loved creation. All in an environment reminiscent of the rooming. Here was a first kiss, first met there, and walked these streets, holding hands ... Those who left, one might say, began a new life. He, new friends, new hobbies, new relationships. It helps to change the objectives, priorities and even character.
However, the character may change, and the one who is waiting. Prolonged separation blurs the features of a loved one, and it is perceived differently - flaws smoothed exaggerated dignity. As a result, already beginning to love is not a real object, but it embellished, ascended to the clouds the image of feeling. The meeting also returns to the ground. It can be frustrating and irritating, fueled by thoughts of a possible change.
Even if the people are far from each other, often call back and rewritten, they are not immune to feelings of extinction. For a long time it is impossible to live in the past. Life takes its. There are new interests, caring, friends, and after a time of love at a distance may be left alone memories. Sadly, it is often the case.
It turns out that the relationship at a distance of anything good we should not wait? This is not true. They also have their advantages.
Pros long separation lovers
Yes, long-distance relationship - not an easy thing, and often destructive and hopeless for love. However, the chances of survival are available. And not only for survival, but also to strengthen. The chances increase when the period of separation is known in advance and lovers have the opportunity to see at least sometimes. Regular emotional makeup at a rare meeting can raise feelings to a higher level. When people are close, the mutual attraction is dulled with time. Separation allows him to break out with renewed vigor. My after it becomes particularly exciting and romantic. And sex - is extremely welcome and flame. This is one of the positive aspects of the relationship at a distance.
Next their plus is that when one person goes somewhere, another time for self-improvement is released or activity you love. It should be used sensibly - to learn something, in some way to move forward. It gets a lot of people who left fresh impressions and come back with a renewed outlook on the world. Surely it would not be very happy that stay away for half the time of separation has not changed for the better.
Watch the process of development of a loved one in general is very interesting. But when people are near all time, this process is not always visible. If the meetings are rare, the difference between remaining in the memories of the way, and that is a favorite person at the moment of goodbye, just striking. Therefore, we should try to get at the separation has been a change for the better. A situation where loving people can not meet often, this allows you to make every effort.
Another plus long-distance relationship is that they provide an opportunity to look at your partner differently. For example, we considered it a pragmatic person, and suddenly began to receive from a loved one is very beautiful romantic letter. We thought that the loved one is not capable of impulsive behavior, as he suddenly came for one day, because it is very missed. We believe that relations have become commonplace and will not be so nervous as before. And they suddenly found a different form and became even brighter than before ...
In other words, long-distance relationship - a piece ambiguous. At long separation, and people can cool off, and, conversely, very firmly attached to each other. In parting, lovers, of course, confident that they will maintain their feelings forever. However, time has a feature set everything in its place. If feelings are superficial, apart they just burn down. If they are true, then the separation should prove their strength. But this still will have to make some effort. How to keep long-distance relationship?
How to keep a sense of separation
Actually, love is in the distance - it's what you need to prove and strengthen almost every day. Fortunately, today there are a lot of opportunities. With the favorite can communicate daily via the Internet or mobile phone, perezvanivayas with him or sending messages. Communication should not be limited only to the way alone bad. Monotony can get bored, and the word love cease to be significant. It is better to ask about what was new and what appeared familiar and hobbies. Of course, not forgetting about the expression of tenderness.
Often, the main destroyers of the relationship with the separation is not the time and the distance and distrust and jealousy. Thoughts about the possibility to change the chosen appear almost everyone who parted. There's no getting around it. But their voice in a conversation with your loved ones and to harass his suspicions are not worth it. Any good it will not. Needless to give him cause for jealousy, talking about the meetings or communication with other men.
The promise of any relationship depends on whether the partners discussed future plans. Love at a distance - is no exception. Plans for the future should be defined before parting. And then, in the process of communication, whenever possible, to negotiate ways to implement them. There is no need to assume that it inconsiderately or intrusive. Our happiness is in our hands. Why vain hope that will never happen? Better to just inquire whether your loved life together. And if so, how he thought it is. And if not ... Well, then, why waste time on empty waiting? After all, there are other possibilities to be happy!