self confidence


  • Do not sit in one place and fully given to the beloved
  • Do not worry, be confident, act
  • Be prepared for anything and do not listen to others
  • Entrenched in the community and to assert itself

Since ancient times people strive for perfection and want to achieve full confidence in themselves and their own abilities. But what is confidence and how to gain confidence in themselves? The concept of "self" is very closely linked with the concept of "knowledge." It would seem that if you have enough "baggage" of knowledge, then you are a confident person. This is not always the case. On our way gets a huge amount of psychological barriers, fears and doubts. Now we will decide how to overcome all these barriers and move on with our heads held high.
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Do not sit in one place and fully given to the beloved

It is very important on the way to confidence not to be afraid to act. Continuing his study your problem, never stop and always finish the begun business.

Sitting at home and just reflecting on what you wish for, you do not achieve, but only aggravate the situation. It's pretty simple. We need to get together and start acting.

Fold all the doubts and be engaged in that business that you decide to start and be sure to finish. Try to be at the same time in the right place for it. Then it will be much easier to operate and to take some decisions. Everything goes on as usual, with ease.

Treat everything going as easy as possible. This will enable to banish all the bad thoughts and do what you would like to do. Do not exaggerate and complicate set for yourself goals and objectives. Relax, turn off the imagination, and all the problems recede into the background.

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Do not worry, be confident, act

Nothing and never be afraid to overcome their fears. you will become stronger and more confident in their abilities. Prepare yourself and watch your fears in the face. To do this, be curious, destroy all obstacles and barriers in your mind, open to people. When a person is fully open and busy with his business, he simply has no time to be afraid. To do this, connect your memories and remember all their joys associated with the acquisition of new knowledge and experience.

Understand for yourself that all fears are based on a misunderstanding of the problem itself. No need to look at other people and look for examples. They are useless, and often negative, and all this leads to misunderstandings and incorrect assessment of the situation. Throw away all the thoughts and memories of the past failures. The world does not revolve only around you, and others interested in what you are doing. They have their own lives and their own problems.

Action. When you move, you become confident and can easily get out of difficult situations. For example, during the first performances in your life for the general public and you are afraid to feel nervous. Over time, the fear goes away, and you perceive speech as something ordinary and everyday.
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Be prepared for anything and do not listen to others

The path to self-confidence is through education and training. If you're in the dark, what you strive for, you will definitely be something difficult to implement. The fear of something unknown will excite your imagination, erasing reality. Obtaining specific knowledge and skills can greatly help you. Spending a little time to prepare, you will be much calmer and more confident.

Do not be afraid of their failures. Even if you stumble, then nobody will reproach in this, and not condemn. Holocaust there will be nothing terrible will happen. It should be clearly and accurately evaluate all the actions done by you, and to make this a useful lesson. Look at failure as a useful lesson. Get invaluable experience, filling cones themselves up for failure. This experience will be useful to you in later life and will help you gain confidence in yourself.

With each failure, you get closer to success, stronger and stronger. Subsequent failures you do not scare, because you can easily pass through them. Every failure encourages you, makes you stronger and pushes risk approaching the desired success.

Do not take to heart the television, radio and advertising. They unanimously dictate to us that life - a complicated thing, and it's hard to live in this world. Society dictates that we do in a given situation, that eat and drink, how to dress and where to go to rest. This is obviously false information, which is aimed at the oppression of the individual. In order to restore confidence, be yourself, and to make their own informed decisions. Decide for yourself, learn, act and go wherever you want. Do not let anyone dissuade you of that and impose their views.

 Be the faith itself and do not listen to others
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Entrenched in the community and to assert itself

In order to strengthen and form the significance of their position in society, set the boundaries of society. Do not keep silent if you have something does not suit, or something like that. Just express your opinion or discontent. After all, if you suffer in silence, the strap of respect for you will sink lower and lower. So, clearly define for themselves beyond what is permitted to others. Nothing wrong there, because you do not want to offend people, just specify it on the border that goes wrong, and what you need to show respect.

It is important to find a place in life, to become a specialist in a particular area, to assert themselves and gain the respect and honor of others. you should look at yourself, listen to your heart and feel what you are most drawn. Do not compare yourself with someone and not equal to other people and someone's achievements. Self-affirmation is vital. It is a natural phenomenon that contributes to the movement of human evolution. Reducing the level of culture of this society greatly influenced the general principles of generosity and self-affirmation. So do not use vulgar, profane, vulgar and aggressive methods. Seeks to develop in every possible way to improve your well-being.

Finally I want to give a few tips to help you gain confidence in their abilities:

  • Cultivate a continuous positive and avoid pessimists.
  • Nobody will blame for their troubles, stay confident.
  • Do not criticize others.
  • Do not shift responsibility for their actions and problems.
  • Stick to your own plans and objectives, do not turn off track.
  • Safely and easily take all the failures and disappointments.
  • Do not think bad about yourself.
  • Watch your step, it must be sure the line.
  • Do not slouch, watch your posture, his whole appearance shows confidence.
  • Monitor your speech, intonation, pitch and timbre of the voice.
  • Do not be afraid to look the person straight in the eye.
  • Be curious.
  • Watch for their appearance.
  • Plan your day, make your resume and autobiography.
  • Communicate with people and often mingle in society.
  • Most laugh and smile.
  • Help people.

Answering the question of how to gain confidence in themselves, and analyzing the above, we can say that confidence to know some thoughts, memories and experiences possible. Confidence comes only after extensive and directed actions that make proud of themselves and their actions.

 Confidence as a way of personal growth

 rules of successful communication


  • How to generate interest on the part of the interlocutor
  • What you should pay attention to
  • A few more tips
  • To summarize

Today, in the age of information technology, promotion of social networks and virtual communication, are often faced with the inability of people to communicate with each other in real life. Not everyone is able to support any conversation, be interesting and worthy companion, some are very difficult given. But all is not hopeless. It turns out that it can be learned. So, how to learn to communicate with people?

Communication can be called successful if common ground with the person found. Difficulties in communication may be absolutely everyone, and does not play the role of education, wealth of inner peace, a sense of humor, reading, etc.

It is rather a psychological barrier.

What do you need to communicate it was interesting and entertaining? As the interlocutor cause an irresistible urge him to continue? In general, how to become a man with whom it will be interesting to chat?
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How to generate interest on the part of the interlocutor

Every person is different. All of us are endowed with some only peculiar to us, qualities. Everyone has his own goals, outlook on life, principles and priorities. Absolutely it is normal to feel the desire of every kind of importance in society. It is this desire is the main key to success and good luck in communication.

In order to communicate could be called a success, it is enough to prove indifferent to what your partner says. The ability to keep the conversation going, be interested thoughts and opinions of the interlocutor, the ability to listen, be sincere and friendly conversation, perhaps, this is what will help to learn how to communicate with people. No wonder they say that the ability to listen and hear the other party is valued far higher than the ability to speak. Listening is given is not for everyone, but to hear - even fewer people.

It does not say that at the meeting need to lash out at his companion, as an old friend. Not everyone will like it, and may even scare.

In his judgment, be very careful that they do not have to be absolutely indisputable. The Last Word leave for better conversationalist than for themselves. If you want to make a good impression at him, gave him in the dispute: the relations will not deteriorate, and you will remain in my opinion.

No way in the conversation are not arrogant. Talking, weigh every word. you must understand that the haughty tone, the desire to elevate himself above the opponent can really offend him, and then the view you will not be the best, and it is unlikely he'll want to talk with you again.

Try to never stand aside, be closer to the people. Each person will be much more pleasant to deal with those who are with him on the same wavelength, so to score in the corner is not the best solution.

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What you should pay attention to

If possible, avoid conversations that contain a complaint to his superiors, colleagues, work as a whole or their fate. Remember that each and enough problems without you, so listen to other people no one wants. People communicate for fun.

An important psychological moment in the conversation is the position in which you are and your partner. It is proved that taking the posture of his companion, you are opening it for communication, create comfortable conditions for him.

In a conversation, try to always be yourself. Unnatural intercourse, the desire to prove to be a different person from the side may seem very ridiculous and absurd, though you may feel that you are perfectly joined in this way. In any case, play a long time will not work, and sooner or later people will know what you really are. So why splurge, to deceive his companion at the early stages of communication. Natural and relaxed - the basic rules of behavior in communication.

Often a barrier for normal communication are some complex man. Always worth remembering that all people far from ideal. Everyone just has their pros and cons, advantages and disadvantages, however, this does not prevent them to communicate well and be the soul of the company. If you are communicating, feeling good and confident surrounding it will notice and appreciate.

It is important during intercourse to look into the eyes of his companion. The man who will avert their eyes when talking to the side, hardly inspires confidence at the opponent. Thus, you will either show how interested you that says the source, or something which you are a dishonest man. It seems to be nothing special, but it is a very important moment in communication, able to arrange a conversation or vice versa push.

If a person is not familiar to you, having learned his name, during a conversation, try to repeat it, contact name. It will be very polite sign on your part.

Probably everyone in a situation when there is no conversation between a very pleasant break. To avoid such awkward moment in communication, is to forget about his short answers like "yes" and "no." Answer deployed as soon as possible the question of the opponent and also ask questions that require a more detailed answer. Thus, your conversation will go by itself. But here, do not overdo it. Communication should not turn into an attack issues. The interviewee should feel comfortable, but not as if he is in the interrogation and simply forced to answer.

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A few more tips

Of course, the more knowledge you have, the more you will be able to interest the person. Versatile interests can not bring your interlocutor. It is always interesting to chat with someone who could tell some stories, share some fun facts, etc.

Learn to express their thoughts and ideas, adapt them to other people's perception. Remember that not everyone in the story in my head pops up exactly the same way as you. To do this, try to convey to the interlocutor the image that you have emerged more clearly provides information explains everything you need.

Do not rush immediately to answer questions. After a pause will help you not only to gather your thoughts and think about the answer, but also interested and mystique from the person they are talking to.

Excessive gestures in communication may encourage the interlocutor at the thought of your self-doubt. Foreign hand movements can greatly distract from the essence of the conversation, and the importance of your words, no one will appreciate, they just do not pay attention.

Avoid the use of words and phrases with an ambiguous subtext. Your words can be interpreted incorrectly and are even able to hurt his interlocutor. Speak clearly what you mean.

Adjust to his interlocutor, not everyone can. This is quite an important point in the conversation. Watch the reviewer, the pace of his speech, try the maximum to repeat it. Communicating in a manner turn your conversation in a constructive conversation.

Use of word-parasites will not make your conversation more beautiful. If possible, limit their use. A person is unlikely to be pleasant to listen to unnecessary and meaningless words. In the end, it turns out that you're a little talking on the case, the conversation becomes boring and uninteresting.

By the way, even in a business conversation is sometimes appropriate to show your sense of humor. If you use it in a timely manner, by the same token, you can defuse a tense situation, to make communication at ease.

In conversation, consider the age of your interlocutor. For example, the conversation goes to a man who is much older than you. Here, accordingly, should be avoided slang expressions that may not be familiar with the other party.

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To summarize

Of course, the main teacher - an experience that does not come at once. To obtain it takes time and proper conditions.   The main thing - to be as confident person, to be able to "carry" themselves, to put in a society. Expand your circle of friends, including a completely different people and age, and the views, and Beliefs.

Any communication starts small. Due to some of the skills in communication, you will be able to become an authoritative person in their community, to which all will listen with interest. No wonder they say that the self-love of others gives rise to love you. Only when you yourself begin to respect themselves, the same thing will be done, and the other in relation to you.

The ability to communicate will necessarily lead you to success. Communication skills are essential in everyday life. Never be afraid to come out of the shadows, to start dialogue first. Be polite and friendly, and you will be able to win the sympathy on the part of the interlocutor. Good luck and success.

 Rules of effective communication