- What you need to know about sex?
- Can there be sex without love?
- When should I think about the first sex?
- How do you know whether you are ready for sex?
- How to do it right? What should be the position?
- Is it true that the first time it feels?
- What it is necessary to take precautions?
- Can you get pregnant the first time?
- Will there be an orgasm during the first sex?
- What feelings will I have after sex?
First sex for girls - an exciting event that can leave the most vivid memory. Someone is waiting for him with impatience and excitement, someone is afraid, but someone in general is trying to delay this moment as much as possible. For a girl's first sex life becomes a victory over their own fears, and the other in memory there are only negative memories. From what depends, as happens parting with virginity? And why it did not always go smoothly?
Most often it happens because the young couple does not yet have sufficient experience, and a young man or woman - and often two - do not know how to behave: how to reduce the risk of pain, where to start and what to do next, and most importantly as not to lose the excitement head and stay calm. And it was from all of this, and the success of the first sex, especially for girls.
Sami young lovers do not know, but more often than not ask anyone. Talking about the upcoming sex with their parents or with someone of the older unlikely someone despair, and friends and girlfriends vying advise completely opposite things. It turns out that the knowledge on the topic of interest is not, and no one to ask. Vicious circle!
What you need to know about sex?
We decided to help you. The most frequently occurring in young people questions about first sex lesson in life, we have tried to answer them as detailed as possible, build our conversation with you on a "question - answer". You can trust us, we will treat you with care and respect, we will not preach, but simply to share their knowledge.
Can there be sex without love?
For some people sexual feelings associated with love and intimate relationships. Others believe that sexual relations should occur only within marriage. For others love and sex - different things. And first sex in general often comes out of curiosity and the desire of young virgins quickly feel like an adult.
Here it is important to make you feel good, do not feel sorry about what you are doing and observe all safety precautions. Observe the safety means include not only the physical health risks such as the possibility of pregnancy or sexually transmitted diseases. It still means the risk of emotional discomfort (regret from rash acts that can stay with you for years to come, if not for life).
When should I think about the first sex?
There is a certain age limit, when you could be considered a person is ready to have sex. It is important that you are ready to have sex, you specifically. It also depends on what you mean by the word "sex". After all, there are so many ways in which you can give and receive sexual pleasure without intercourse. You can make each other a sensual massage, kissing, hugging each other, caressing and bring to orgasm without touching the genitals. For some people, such actions can bring even more pleasure than just the sexual act itself.
In life, young girls often it happens that the environment begins to exert pressure on them. Friends and friends begin to laugh at their virginity and literally pushing an important step. You can not help a thought that you just did have to go and try out what it is, even if you do not really want it.
It is not always easy, but you should resist this pressure. You do not have to do what you do not like and should do only what they themselves really want to do. And yet, you will discover a secret: not all of your friends who say that they have "already been" really really have experienced sex.
Thinking about all the possible consequences of sex can help you make the right decision. There are many reasons why people do not want to have sexual relations. Someone resist the temptation quite strong religious or cultural beliefs. For example, you may feel that is not yet ready for it emotionally, and if you force yourself to get over his doubts, it would mean that after the event you will experience regret. And someone just decide to wait.
Whatever your decision, you should do exactly what suits you specifically. This should be an informed decision, and not based on fear or pressure from anyone else, even if this is your guy.
How do you know whether you are ready for sex?
If you are not sure that they are ready to have sex, then most likely you're not prepared. Rather, you feel the pressure from their friends. We have warned you - if someone tells you that already knew the sex, it does not mean that you should do the same because "the time has come." And in general, you are sure they are telling the truth? Again and again ready to repeat: do not ever do that will create for you and your partner uncomfortable!
"Cozy" Do you in your relationship with your partner? Enough Do you trust each other? Are you sure that your young people will do everything in its power to protect you from discomfort and from further soul-searching? Daring an important step, do not forget that the first sex happens only once in a lifetime. Unfortunately, many girls lose their virginity to a man with whom never will meet, and maybe still not met.
How stupid when it happens to a random person somewhere in the party, because then usually there is nothing but embarrassment and regret! And the pain - it is not an unknown man will take care of to make you well, it is important to get only their own pleasure! A frustrated girl can do nothing but disappointment, and she accepted to talk about the fact that for the first time - it hurts!
How to do it right? What should be the position?
It is important that the first sex for women began to produce sexual arousal of foreplay. During foreplay play an important role kissing, stroking, caressing erogenous zones (abdomen, chest, ear lobe, the clitoris, and others), rubbing and touching each other.
Sexual arousal "will give" themselves to certain physiological characteristics. The girl begins to stand out from the lubrication of the vagina, you will feeling of moisture between the legs. The nipples on the breasts swell and become dense to the touch. And the young men arise erection - his penis will be bigger and hardens. It is important that stimulation occurs as long as possible, because when there is insufficient sexual arousal her vagina girl is not well lubricated, and the guy will be more difficult to enter the penis. This means that there may appear pain.
When a couple is ready (and this means that man has put on a condom), it will be easier if some of them direct hand Man penis into the vagina. Then, when the penis will already be inside, you have to take the position that nothing prevented the penis to make frictions (traffic entry and exit from the vagina), which will eventually lead to an orgasm of one or both partners.
There are a number of different positions, which are suitable for the first sexual intercourse. Most often it is a classic pose, when she lies on her back and the guy is on top (this position is sometimes called the "missionary"). In addition, the girl with the guy may be swapped, and the girl will be at the top, as if sitting on a partner (posture "rider"). And, you can lie on your side, a guy from behind, and in front of the girl, pressing her buttocks to the partner.
These postures are most suitable if the sex of your life has happened for the first time. They allow you to control the depth of penetration and the friction of the penis, which is very important in order to reduce the possible discomfort to a minimum.
Is it true that the first time it feels?
Many virgins fear that first sex will be accompanied by pain. Minor pain can really feel the girl, but the pain is so small that its pain and some can not be named. You may see a bit of blood. There is all because the first time in the life of a young woman's sexual act violated the integrity of the hymen.
The hymen is a thin fold of skin a little, which is located across the vagina close after entering into it. Peel the so thin and damage it so easy that it often happens in real life, and she did not even notice. For example, during sports or cycling. So do not be afraid, do not be severe pain rather mild discomfort, and even then not always. A lot depends on foreplay to sex, this we have already told you.
What it is necessary to take precautions?
If you are with your loved one feel myself mature, thinking about sex, you have to be mature enough and to discuss the possibility of using a condom. Just because this is the first time does not mean that you have no risk of contracting sexually transmitted disease or become pregnant. The condom is almost completely save you from these troubles.
It is therefore very important that the first time you have sex occurred with the person that you trust. With it, you did not hesitate to discuss whether you are able to use a condom, and can be sure that you have it. Understand and other methods of contraception - it may be a special cream or tablets. Do not hesitate to ask the pharmacy to recommend you the most suitable for you contraceptive. After all, you are not going to become parents at this age?
Can you get pregnant the first time?
Yes! The ability to conceive does not depend on whether the first or the tenth time you have sex. It does not depend on it and whether you do it lying down or standing up in the bath or in bed. A fertility depends only on whether it is ready to fertilize your egg, which matures in the ovary cancer. When ovulation occurs (ie, the egg matures and begins to advance from the ovary to the uterus on the fallopian tubes), to fertilize it lacks only meeting with the sperm.
And if the first sexual intercourse occurs at this time, the girl has a chance to become a future mother. Therefore, use contraceptives, unless it is your wedding night, or you decide to get a baby.
Will there be an orgasm during the first sex?
Girls may not always have an orgasm during sex first. It can interfere with fear, restraint, a sense of shame. But all in all everything is different. Some couples say they were both at the height of pleasure, some say that an orgasm is not experienced, neither he nor she. It is very individual, just try not to expect too much from your first experience - just like any other experience, it takes some time for you to get to know your partner's body, and his own body, too. In any case, you will be very nice - especially if you love the guy.
What feelings will I have after sex?
After the first sexual experience you can overwhelm a lot of different feelings. If it was not planned, or you did it under the pressure, then you may feel disappointed or regret. This is what we have already said. Your expectations can also affect your feelings after sex. Will have an impact on your mood and what you were able to use contraception properly.
But if you responsibly approached the question of preparations for the first sex, then you will experience only the best! And yet, you will feel that your relationship reached a new level and acquired a special intimacy and closeness.
You must have noticed that the stories about the first sex at all different. Some people are satisfied with their first experience, while others argue that it is not experienced anything special. This is at best. At worst, they say that "it was awful! "What will be the end of your story at first sex - it depends on you. Listen to our advice, and we wish you to have everything turned out just fine!