No matter how men behave towards women, no matter what methods are not used to their conquests, all their strategies can be divided into two main types - the strategy of husbands and lovers strategy. Husband and lover, if they are of such nature, behave differently. In general, the nuances of the actions of representatives of the stronger sex can be different due to the nature of education and life experience of otherness. But the general outline in the men's behavior is fairly easy to see. But to decide whom to choose a husband or a lover, a woman is not so easy.
Under the "husbands" and "lovers" in this case we do not mean formal or actual status of the men for a particular woman. We are talking about the psychological state of man, defining features of his actions in relations with the weaker sex. Husbands and lovers - the two opposing male personality types, which differ from each other not only in outward behavior, but also the internal state. When communicating with the weaker sex they intuitively guided by their organic qualities. That is dealt with in accordance with the individual character and not by the logic of conscious choice.
As we have said, in general, men are divided into husbands and lovers. The first tend to serious and long-term relationships with women, the latter are more likely to either a non-binding flirt and adventurism. "Husbands" are usually focused on the external real world introverts, "lovers" - living in the fictional world of extroverts. In rare cases, extroverts are beginning to play the role of husband and introverts - lover.
Each of these men has a psycho strengths and weaknesses and your circle of women. A healthy relationship with them can only be on condition that a man is ready to play the role opposite his personality. In other words, the husband may become more and lover, and the lover - husband. Otherwise, due to the fairer sex will be one-sided.
So what are they, the men - husbands and men - lovers?
Type male lover -
The classic type of lover is a man, a womanizer, gambler hunter, enthusiastic by the process of hunting. This smoothie and a ladies' man, is not capable of a long and deep affection. In a relationship with a woman he aspires to become a leading, showing initiative and straightness. "Lover" charmingly brash, moderately cynical, open and almost never shifts the responsibility for the affair on his partner.
It's too narcissistic person for whom new acquaintances are able to meet its ambitions. The fact of the victory over the woman for "lover" is much more important than the relationship with her. Was used his will, he would have started a whole harem, adding to the number of its occupants almost daily.
A great lover of adventure, "lover" knows no boundaries to his passion, and could go for the sake of his goals for the aggressive and violent measures. It was a rough and sexy and can easily turn the head of almost every woman. "Lover" does not cost anything to interest and inspire the young lady so that she forgot about everything. At the same time it does not tormented conscience, if the lady leave the family, and then he throws the lady.
"Lover" is not able to convince the woman a sense of security and peace. It always feels as if on a powder keg, because it is well aware - the man hunt forever. From women "lover" is required only win recognition and confirmation of its exclusivity. Its main task - to win as many as possible of the fairer sex. It raises the bar all the time, trying to conquer more and more beautiful and bright women. If it comes out, it means that the quality of production enters its number.
In general, the "lovers" - a man with a shattered self-esteem and self-esteem imbalance. And the increase in the number of sexual wins they need to restore that balance. However, women 'lovers' love. Even knowing that the character of a man fickle and flighty, they are still amenable to its charms, hoping to tame. However, it is understandable - being with a man, especially when he is seeking it, a woman feels special and sexually attractive. That, of course, it flatters vanity.
In short, the relationship with a male lover always comes down to the mutual satisfaction of ambition. He - a bright and artistic nature, which, like the air, you need to worship and admiration for the fairer sex. They worship Him, mostly women, who need to recognize its appeal. Sexual relations are sidelined. But they are still there.
Type man - husband
Classic "husband" - a home a calm person, the purpose of which - long life with one woman. Constant change and adventure mates abhorrent to his nature. In relations with the weaker sex "husband" is very serious. Each young lady he sees a potential wife, and because it is surrounded by reinforced concern. "Husband" obsessively attentive, very attentive and constantly waiting for approval from his passion and love for his confirmation.
Flirt "husbands" absolutely can not. They do not feel the mood of the women do not notice her coquetry and relationships take a passive position. "My husband," the woman waiting for a first step, a clear indication of the fact that he do next. It is delicate, trying to behave Therefore gentleman and I am sure that his main advantage - a sublime, romantic attitude towards women. "Husbands," expertly groomed and conquer women dedication, perseverance and patience. Unlike the lovers, they aspire to stability and offer their girlfriends eternal love with the prospect of marriage.
In reality, the true purpose of "husband" in relations with the weaker sex is not very different from the goal of "lover" - "husband" is also looking for inner satisfaction and trying to get rid of the mental disorder. But his actions are not based on sexual conquests, and love the fairer sex. For this "husband" is ready to be defeated and submit to a woman, even to the detriment of their own interests. It is predictable in his actions, and manage, which inspires women a sense of stability and of security. If she wants to start a family, something, like, the best candidate for the couple and wish not worth it.
However, this is not true. In fact, the "husband" looking for companion - mother, capable of creating in his life the atmosphere of childhood. Their freedom, they are willing to pay for the opportunity to shift the blame for everything on the woman, at the same time getting rid of the feeling of inferiority. However, in return they give care, love and reliability. In addition, the "husband", suggesting his partner a feeling of certainty, it opens the way to motherhood.
In general, distinct types of "men" and "lovers" one problem - the imbalance of self-esteem. The deeper it is, the stronger the man in the relationship with the weaker sex or that the strategy of behavior. Some hard play Knights defenders, while others - the brazen cynic. If self-esteem is more or less balanced, the man does not fall within the scheme already opisnoy us and becomes a man.
Type of man - just a man
A man with a normal balance of self - a man, free to set their behaviors in relation to the weaker sex. He can successfully play the role of a husband and lover, but usually this is not necessary. Why build of a Don Juan or a noble knight, if the normal man is valuable in itself? This is for those who need to assert themselves at the expense of women. And just men - whole nature, and evidence of its importance to them to anything. Such men are able to build the most healthy family relationships. In contrast, husbands and lovers seeking solace in women and increase self-esteem, they tend to love and mutual respect. And usually marry the one most suited to these requirements.
People choose to women?
It would seem a matter of choosing between a husband, a lover and a man of a series of rhetorical questions. Of course, just a man! He is reliable, independent, self-sufficient, at last! But there it was. Female sex is unpredictable. To understand why the young lady preferred a certain man at a time when close to him, there are other, seemingly more appropriate for a good relationship, it is impossible. Well, it would seem, why women male lovers? For them a drudgery! Why do men husbands? They will never feel like a stone wall. Nevertheless, demand, and those and others, oddly enough, even more than "just a man."
The thing is that many women, deciding on whom to choose a husband or lover, want to see in his chosen one and the features of both. The first type of men attracts them their children's dependence and awakens the instinct of motherhood. The second type is the stronger sex allows you to feel sexually attractive. This sometimes can not understand the difference between sex with a lover from her husband. He may not be a big difference. However, husbands can not sing the praises of the eroticism of his girlfriend. Lovers do the same thing, and masterly.
Combine type of husband and lover in one type of man is almost impossible. But the women refused to accept it. Contact with a male lover, they entertain feelings, blossom and become incredibly sexy. And then try to remake his partner from the lover's husband. Attempts usually are unsuccessful, and the relationship fail. "Lovers" cherish freedom - without it they can not feel complete. The women can not tolerate the uncertainty and the constant threat of betrayal partner.
The reverse option, in which the woman lives with careful "husband", but eventually realizes that he is, by virtue of its internal state of eternal subordination is not able to satisfy the women's pride. She tries to change things, and to awaken in man the desire for independence. Nothing usually comes out of it, and she rushes to find someone who can give her confidence in own sexual exclusivity and appeal.
Is there a way out of these situations? There is. Even the two, but is very difficult. The first of them - in the relationship, and men and women have to stop seeing the way of self-affirmation and the ability to comfort. The man in this case is free from psychological need to play the role of a husband or a lover, a woman to believe that she is very attractive and erotic indestructible. The connection between them at once will change the nature of interdependence. It will be a union based on respect and a deep emotional attachment.
The second output - in case if the change themselves neither man nor the woman is not able to, and they do not want to leave. Once such a case, it is necessary to give each other the opportunity to receive what is lacking. Let the "lover" hunts. A woman living with a man - her husband, gets itself this here "lover."
It should be noted that the second solution to the problem is not very suitable for normal relations. Free love it there, if there is, and people almost always hard to realize that the person I love flirting with someone else. And if not just flirting ... Such are willing to few. However, you can, of course, flirt and secretly. However, this is not the best way to preserve the Union. Therefore it is better to first find a good man, and then decide whether or not to build a lasting relationship with him.