I do not want to breast-feed

Despite the fact that the benefits of breastfeeding is evident, very often, for one reason or another, the woman decides for herself: "I do not want to breastfeed." The reaction of others is often ambiguous. Someone supports young mom who does not understand, and some openly condemned.

However, taking the decision to transfer the child to artificial feeding, you should not rely on the opinions of others. It is also very unwise to opt for breast-feeding or artificial, looking back on the experience and advice of relatives, friends and even your mother. All the children are absolutely unique, and what was good for one child can bring serious harm to another child.

Also, do not be afraid of the fact that if you decide to feed the baby formula milk surrounding deem you a bad mother, or vice versa, if you give preference to breastfeeding, you deem chicken - hen.
The only opinion that you need to listen - it is your opinion pediatrician who oversees the development and knows the peculiarities of the health of your crumbs.

Many young mothers frighten horror stories that bottle-fed babies have bad teeth, a weak immune system and lag behind their peers who are fed breast milk. Of course, one can not deny the huge benefits of breast milk, and it is very beneficial effect on the child's body, however, and artificial feeding is not so harmful, how often his opponents of trying to put infant formula.

But despite all the arguments in favor of breastfeeding, often life circumstances are such that to continue or even to start breast-feeding child can not. Serious illness mother, her admission to the hospital, the reception is contraindicated during lactation drugs that leaving mother or her access to work - such reasons may be quite a lot.

To the woman subsequently did not regret their choice, it needs to know more about each feeding. If a woman does not want to breastfeed, she should actually weigh all the "pros" and "cons", and only then choose the best option for themselves.

The woman does not want to breastfeed - "pros" and "cons"

The benefits of breastfeeding is obvious and almost no one had long been trying to challenge this fact. Gone stories about "bad" milk in some women, that after a year of milk has no nutritional value and no other mistakes. More and more mothers try to breastfeed as long as possible.

However, artificial feeding is carried out for many years, and kids grow up healthy and vibrant, and many terrible predictions "well-wishers" are only predictions.

Below we analyzed all the positive and negative aspects of breastfeeding and artificial feeding. First, consider the benefits of breastfeeding:

  • The most important advantages that breastfeeding is absolutely unique composition of human milk, artificially replicate that at the moment it was not possible. Moreover, the composition of breast milk is constantly changing, adapting to the current needs of the baby.
  • Breast milk is almost 100% absorbed by the more immature digestive system of the child. This effect is achieved due to the protein contained in human milk (lactalbumin) and fats, perfectly meets the needs of the crumbs. Protein and fat as cow's milk can cause gastrointestinal disorders. In addition, the body of a child learns no more than 60% of these substances.
  • Breast milk contains far less protein and, importantly, sodium. But, as is known, protein and sodium the kidneys subjected to the highest load toddler. Excessive load can also lead to very unpleasant consequences, such as disease pyelonephritis.
  • Calcium is in human milk, it absorbed 60% better than calcium from milk mixtures by the fact that human milk stably maintained optimum balance of calcium and phosphorus. Elevated levels of phosphorus prevents full absorption of calcium and may even lead to its washout from the body.
  • Children who are breastfed are much less exposed to manifestations of allergic reactions as allergic to human milk - extremely rare phenomenon. As a rule, if the baby sucking at the breast, and an allergy, it is precisely those products which are consumed a mother.
    But the transition to the use of artificial formulas in 2 of 10 children show signs of severe allergy. In such a situation, it may be advisable either to return to breastfeeding, or try hypoallergenic mixture, soy or goat's milk.
  • In babies who are breastfed are almost never upsetting the balance of normal intestinal microflora and, as a result, children are much less likely to suffer from constipation or diarrhea. Intestinal infections are also extremely rare in babies who are breastfed as breast milk is always aseptic and absolutely sterile. Mother's milk is never spoiled and will not mildew.
  • In addition, thanks to my mother's milk, infant feces rarely irritate the delicate skin of the child and the emergence of so-called "pelёnochnogo" dermatitis. However, this feature only applies to children who do not receive any additional feeding. Once introduced into the diet of the first solid foods, this advantage disappears.
  • Breastfeeding is very convenient and does not require any cost my mother's strength. Women do not need to boil the bottles, cook the mixture to control its temperature. A nursing mother never encounter a situation where you need to stop walking because it came time to feed the baby, and mixed with a no.
  • It should be noted that breastfeeding requires absolutely no material costs, except, perhaps, buy a breast pump required some women in the first month of lactation.
  • Breastfeeding is not only beneficial to the child, but also has a positive effect on the health of nursing women. Sucking baby breast in the first days after childbirth to stimulate contractions of the uterus early, and later helps the woman to return to her former weight. Lactating women each month lost about 500 grams, without diet and exercise.

If, despite all these facts, women are increasingly thinking, "I do not want to breastfeed," she would be interested to know what are the advantages of giving artificial feeding. It is no wonder that it is also quite popular.

  • The kid who gets artificial milk formula, experiencing hunger much less than the crumbs are breastfed. The reason is very simple. Almost all baby food is made on the basis of a dry cow's milk. Casein, which is part of cow's milk, is formed in the stomach of a baby in big lumps on the digestion of which takes much more time than in the mother's milk.
  • In contrast, mothers who breast-feed the baby, the woman who does not want to breastfeed, and expressed a preference for mixtures, always knows exactly what amount of food eaten her pipsqueak. However, there need to be careful not to focus on the standard norms of food for a child at a certain age, and it needs your baby. Very often kids who are bottle-fed, are obese, as the mother, worried that the baby eats less than necessary, resulting in overfeed it.
  • Mothers who have given up breastfeeding, have much more freedom and mobility. A woman can go shopping, to visit or even go on a business trip - in her absence the child can feed dad or grandma.
  • Another great, if not the most important, benefit of artificial feeding is that the child can feed and dad. This allows the pope to take an active part in caring for the baby from its birth, which is beneficial to the emotional connection of the pope and the child.
  • In addition to caring for crumbs can attract older kids. As a rule, in families where the parents of older children are attracted to stronger care for a newborn, much less often there are cases of children's jealousy. However, remember that the aid should be strictly on a voluntary basis, forcing the child to do something, the more likely you will achieve the opposite effect.
  • A woman breastfeeding a baby artificially, has many more features to come to rest and recover from childbirth. She did not have to get up at night to feed the baby - for her it can make the baby daddy. In addition, the woman's body there is no need to expend their energy, already depleted stocks in the production of breast milk.
  • If the woman does not feed the baby breast, she can afford to wear such clothes, what she likes, and not one in which it will be convenient to feed. Of course, as a nursing mother can afford to wear beautiful clothes, but all exactly have to limit choice in the first place, when you buy, pay attention to whether it is possible in these clothes quickly give your child the breast.
  • If we talk about freedom of choice, not to mention the choice of contraceptives. A woman who is not nursing mom can afford to choose any means from a wide range, without worrying about how it will affect the health of your baby.
  • A woman who does not breastfeed, does not need to comply with any diet. Unless young mother decides not to sit on a diet to get rid of the accumulated during pregnancy excess weight.
  • Bottle feeding in public places does not cause any difficulties, my mother did not need to look for a secluded, hidden from the prying eyes of the place, and after feeding lead to the proper type of clothing.
  • A woman who chooses not to breastfeed, much faster can return to normal sexual life. The reason is that the hormones are not a nursing mother is recovering much faster, and it is not observed such symptoms experienced by breast-feeding women, for example, vaginal dryness or spontaneous release of milk from the breasts during sex.

 I do not want to breastfeed

How to stop lactation?

So you know all the pros and cons, consider them and decide: "I do not want to breastfeed." However, the emergence of postpartum lactation - an inevitable process, and before the woman should stop its task most quickly and painlessly avoid mastitis. For this mother should know exactly what it is to be expected.

  • Even if you have never since the birth of the baby did not put him to the breast, the third - the fifth day you will have milk. Unfortunately, even the appointment of drugs that suppress lactation, can not prevent the emergence of milk completely.
  • If the milk is produced in large quantities, the breast can become hard and blush can appear painful.
  • However, in the absence of the child's attachment to the breast lactation is gradually suppressed. For discomfort disappearance may take from one to two weeks.
  • Complete disappearance of the cessation of lactation and milk ejection with pressure on the nipple will happen in about three months.

If you do not interfere in the process of extinction of lactation and let things take their course, the chance is great that young mum face such unpleasant disease such as mastitis. In order to facilitate as much as possible during this period, the woman should follow these simple rules.

  • If you're determined to stop breast-feeding, you should as soon as possible to stop lactation. The safest way to do that simulate the natural extinction of lactation.
  • It is very important to choose the right bra. On the one hand, it must not be too loose and let hang breast and on the other hand, it should not be too hard to press. It is important to wear a bra all the time, without removing it, even at night. This helps to maximize the preservation of a woman's breast shape. Tie up the breast in any case nothing is impossible, as is a direct way to the emergence of mastitis.
  • It is important to regularly express the excess milk. A woman can express both his hands and a breast pump. However, you should pay attention to the fact that if this is your first child, you most likely do not know how to effectively express milk hands, so it makes sense to pre-purchase a breast pump.
    In the first week of pumping may be needed very often, on average, once every two hours. And remember - in any case be fully express all having in breast milk, because it will cause stimulation of lactation and milk production even more. It should express as much to the unpleasant sensation of fullness disappeared. If decanting to take a warm shower or make a hot compress, it will help to more effectively and quickly decant the excess milk.
  • If a woman is experiencing severe pain, her condition will help facilitate breastfeeding cold compresses. For these purposes, you can use ice, pre-poured into the bag and wrapped in cloth.
  • For ease the pain a woman can take medications containing acetaminophen or ibuprofen. However, before the application is necessarily necessary to consult with your physician, as some painkillers can cause late postpartum hemorrhage.
  • If the appearance of a woman found in the chest seals, it is also an urgent need to see a doctor, as is likely, it lactostasis that can cause purulent mastitis, requiring surgical intervention.
  • Also, women can alleviate the condition old national way. The bra is necessary to put fresh cabbage leaves, changing them about every two hours. Too many women noted a significant advance relief.
  • Many mothers stop lactation helped infusion of mint, parsley and sage. To make it, take the listed ingredients in equal parts, chop them and fill with boiling water at the rate of 100 grams of water to half a teaspoon of the herbal mixture. Insist hour, then strain through cheesecloth and drink 200 grams of infusion before each meal, but at least 5 times a day. Generally, the effect of infusion appears after 12 hours.

"I am a mother! And so right! "

In conclusion I would like to mention some of the psychological aspects related to those women who opt for the artificial feeding.
If you still have any doubt about the fact that you do not want to breastfeed, try to at least some time to maintain lactation by pumping milk. This will give you a chance to resume breastfeeding. If you are sure that this is not for you, you can always stop lactation.

If you originally had planned to breastfeed, but after birth it became clear that you can not feed a child for some - or medical reasons, unless you are taking medication contraindicated with breastfeeding, try to feed your baby a bottle with expressed milk.

Typically, in such situations, the young mother is experiencing much. It is absolutely necessary assistance and support for native people. In addition, it may be a very useful meeting with the consultant on breastfeeding to help her mother look into the situation and believe in themselves.

If you consciously and completely independently came to the conclusion: "I do not want to breastfeed," Do not allow anyone to doubt the correctness and appropriateness of your position. Remember that this is your child and only yours, it is you are responsible for his well-being, and that you know what is best for your baby.
Be firm in your decision, never make excuses and try to politely but resolutely stop such talk in the bud.

A huge number of children grew up eating artificial mixtures. And the fact that you do not give your child the breast, it is not to say that you do not give him my love.

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