Modern society is like a taboo about death. Who it is considered almost indecent to talk about death, and think about that people do not really want to. This is the result that today we are all obsessed with the idea of preserving youth. Of course, we know that all die, but we have yet to learn to accept this reality safely and naturally.
As happens to most of us? We do not try to ignore anything related to death, but in the depths of consciousness we have fear before this mysterious and incomprehensible to us the phenomenon. The fear of death does not allow us to understand its reality, to understand its meaning. Not knowing what to expect, we are creating fantasy involved with the future of dying, and they frighten us, because these fantasies seem to us quite real. As living beings, we can not fail to recognize that death is inevitable, and are faced with the necessity of making this a reality. To understand how to get rid of the fear of death, you must understand that, in fact, we are afraid.
What are people afraid of thinking about death?
Fear of death (thanatophobia, from the Greek word "Thanatos", which means "death" and "phobia" - "fear") includes several specific problems that accompany the reality of the process of dying. That is from the "monolith" general fear of death, you can isolate a fear of something specific. People thinking about their death, fear:
Unknown (when, as it happens, and what happens to me then?);
Losing control of the situation;
To experience severe illness, pain and suffering;
Losing dignity, independence and autonomy;
Leave loved ones.
Looking at this list, it is easy to understand that most of us think that the fear of death, whereas in fact, the biggest fear is dying process. When asked how they would prefer to die - suddenly or as a result of illness? - Eighty percent of the people answer that they would like to die of sudden death. However, the reality is that ninety percent of us will die from the disease, and only ten percent of the people will die quickly and suddenly.
Given these facts, we should conclude a "truce" with the dying, to stop being afraid of death and begin to perceive it differently. Instead of wasting our precious time and energy on the dismal and frightening thoughts about the future and the possible demise of nothingness, as an alternative is necessary to develop a healthy respect for death. By doing this, we are not only able to end her life with dignity accept its completion, but also take into their hands control over the way we live now.
What can you do to help yourself
Getting rid of the fear of death is possible and that's what you need to do to gloomy thoughts ceased to affect the quality of your life:
Talk to someone about your fears
You will be much easier if you talk to the person who can fully trust, and tell him about their emotions. Try together to figure out why you feel uncomfortable and look for a way to change the situation. However, it will be easier to do, because you will find a solution to a fresh look from the outside. No wonder the proverb says that one head - well, while two heads - better! If the fear is so strong that it threatens to (or already out) of your control, we recommend that you seek professional help.
Understand their beliefs and values
All of our deepest beliefs are the basis of how we live and how we live. And if there is any contradiction between what we do and how we feel that it would have to do, then we begin mental anguish. We may not even realize that the act contrary to their core beliefs, but on a subconscious level begins to develop a sense of dissatisfaction with themselves and their lives.
Think about what would be your response to the question about the meaning and purpose of human life, and assess whether or not your life, your deeds and actions are a reflection of your beliefs.
Do not worry ahead of time
Death - it's not something that you need to worry; it is likely that you may want to learn to accept as part of life, as it is a natural continuation. The Bible verse that says that our lives enough trouble today, so we should not worry about what will happen tomorrow. We often think that that is not what will happen tomorrow, and the days, hidden from us haze of time; but the affairs of today we forget, immersed in gloomy thoughts.
Courageous people do not think about death, even ill with severe or incurable diseases. They first think of their chance to live, even if they are negligible. And such people are more likely to survive than having a much easier diagnosis, but pessimistic patients who only thought that they would die. So whether or not torture yourself with the fear of death, when you are still full of life?
Change the scale of life values
Remember that all the creature comforts, including your body, will be left behind when you die. So pay more attention to those things in your life that are not in the material plane. Think about how you spend your time and expend their energy. This is your precious and limited resources. Invest it wisely. Develop the patience, compassion, kindness and love toward yourself and others.
Live life to the fullest
Do not waste your precious time worrying about death. Instead, fill your life with joy and do not let the small disorders make you feel bitterness. More often on the nature, communicate with friends, get some new hobby. Discovering in themselves new and new talents, try to realize all the possibilities. Just do whatever you like and benefit you and others, and it will make you forget about death. As Mark Twain said, "The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives a full life, at any time to be ready to die with dignity. "
Optimism will prolong your life, thereby pushing the death. Studies have shown that optimistic about the world of the individual less likely to suffer from heart disease, which today kills the vast majority of people on the planet. So do not worry, and you will live longer!
- Recognizes death as a natural extension of life
Understand that this is - a series that people are born, live, die, others are born. And they, too, live and die. Everyone has a place in this cycle, and we are ever going to have to leave to make room for the new generations, as once other people have gone to make room for us.
Think of the passage of time, as an opportunity to do something useful in life, to save the baggage of good deeds that will be your mark on this earth, and that you will leave an inheritance to those who eventually had once left behind. This will maximize your chances of a peaceful and dignified death and long good memory.
Do not think that you will sink into oblivion after his death
Gone from us our dear people will always live in our hearts and memories. Therefore, it is necessary not to think about death, but about life, to learn how to give someone your love and warmth.
You may plead and hope that death - is not a complete disappearance
After all, no one does not know what is really going on. No one alive could not look behind the curtain of the most important secret, so no one can confidently assert nor what "there" is something there, nor that there is nothing at all. Materialist view of life and death, asserting that the physical reality - it is the only possible reality - is another belief system, and no more. No one knows what happens when a person dies, the arms of the mystery is too strong. We can only guess. So why assume the worst?
Do not be afraid of pain
It also happens that we are experiencing is not about their chances of suffering while dying, but we can not accept the fact that the deceased loved one has suffered. Or we are afraid that he would die before it will feel pain. The situation may be different, one thing unites them: very often we equate death and pain.
But the death - is not necessarily pain. Though the physical pain plays an important role throughout our lives (actually, the pain and need something to save our lives, warning of the danger), but after his death, neither you nor your family will not experience pain. Even if the person is gone, the disease is accompanied by excruciating pain - try to comfort themselves with the thought that he is now relieved of their suffering.
To finally get rid of fear, try to imagine that after death you will get to where you will be happy
Almost all religions of the world say that the way it is. Who knows, maybe they're right? There is in fact no evidence "for" or "against"!
What else is necessary to remember
Talking about the rationality or irrationality of the fear of death can be a very long time, as well as to talk about how to help yourself to switch to a joyful perception of life. We would like to bring to you a few important thoughts about your fears:
The fear of death can be a sign of depression
If you began to pursue heavy thoughts, try to change your lifestyle: slightly lower the pace of life, possibly refuse undue stress, get plenty of rest, to be outdoors, playing sports.
If the phobia becomes obsessive and suppresses your will, making it difficult to live a normal life, be sure to consult a specialist
If you doubt the wisdom of going to the doctor, talk to someone from the family about their feelings. They will help you determine how serious the changes that have occurred to you.
No matter how far gone is your phobia, try to work out at the firm conviction that you are able to overcome your fear
Make it a rule every day to think of something good that can happen when you live most of their lives and will live up to the moment when death will be really close. Something that will warm your soul warmth: affectionate grandchildren that you have learned to knit and bake pies, loving children you always were ready to support, and now they are so touching care about you ...
Focus your attention on what you have done, we are to live and be happy, and not on what you can not do after death. When we die, we can hardly something to get bored or something to be desired.
Keep reminding yourself that the fear of death is sometimes worse than death; and who knows if your death is so unpleasant, as you are constantly trying to imagine.
Know that your fears one day will be held, how is everything on this earth. Over the years, people have become wiser and a lot of fear that haunted earlier, they do not seem so obvious. Is it any scaring yourself now, when old age is still far?
If fear still visit you, do not reproach yourself and do not blame anything. Know that you are not alone, and many people were going through or that through which you have to go now.
Once again, it is strongly recommended to seek professional help if you feel that the fear of death is literally paralyzes you. There is nothing shameful in it, and early treatment increases your chances to quickly deal with your phobia.