- Learn blaming others
- Feel free to look to the future and think positively
- Proceed and only move forward
- Do not take failure to heart
Many people are looking for reasons for the failure in the world. Pope fault that we did not get a higher education, a man we believe responsible for something that does not make a successful career. Even positive changes in the life of a man waiting by: Head of the salary increase, the grandmother left a great legacy. Or the children grow up, become famous and will provide us with a dignified old age, we spend in a luxury estate abroad.
But nobody thinks about how to change their own lives for the better. Without the help of relatives, friends, colleagues, superiors, rich and famous boyfriend. And for good reason. This method - the most reliable and effective. But to be the mistress of his fate - a task no easy task. Prepare to be that you can no longer lie on the couch, blaming and criticizing the more successful, talented and rich.
Learn blaming others
Search guilty - this is probably the most favorite pastime of all people on our planet. Only today you have to learn how to analyze their own mistakes that were made by you. You do not have higher education? So where does the parents who could barely make ends meet to? In addition, you could easily enter the desired faculty after they became independent and left the father's house.
Career did not work out? What is the reason? First, it prevents pregnancy, and then persuaded her husband to become a housewife to drive the child mugs and bake cakes? Begin to act now. They work and achieve success even retirees. The main thing - to start. On top of that, you have lots of advantages - an adult child and a stable family.
Women whose children can walk to school on their own, usually think about finding a good job. At the beginning of the conscious life of the fair sex were planning to be successful, make a career, but life was quite different. Combine the chair office worker and motherhood failed. And the girl under the influence of the family (company) became a housewife.
What awaits a girl who refused to build a career in time? The children have already grown up. Sometimes even high school students trying to distance itself from excessive tutelage of the mother. Husband with her boring, because all these years, he grew and developed, and the range of its interests narrowed to the family hearth. The woman, who devoted his life to the family, no one else is needed. At best, it will be a pop-grandchildren for the weekend. In the worst - from her husband leave. But initially it was something she decided to devote himself to the house! Therefore, it makes no sense to blame others.
Feel free to look to the future and think positively
Many people who decide to change their destiny for the better, defeated and give up at the beginning. At heart, they want change, but the fear of failure is stronger. To a huge chariot of life still moved forward in the direction you need to realize some of the truth.
- Victory can not be achieved instantly
The more goals you have set, the longer it will have to go.
If the first attempt failed to achieve the desired, do not be discouraged, and try again. Remember that what had been persistent in his childhood. Here you learn to swim, but the first time, of course, to stay on the water is not obtained. However, you again and again go into the river, to get things done. And in the end you still go out. Here, the same picture, only instead of the reservoir - the office, but rather the ability to swim - a long-awaited promotion.
- You must be able to analyze and to find new ways
If you could not make a difference the second time, you need to analyze their mistakes. Did you do something wrong? You can not take the pressure, not thought through every detail. For example, you need to open a jar of canned food, but only a hand fork. Believe me, there will be little overwhelming desire for goals. Need even opener. The same applies to the more complex goals.
- Self-confidence - especially
Before you change your life for the better, you need to properly configure. If you're subconsciously waiting defeat - you know, so be it. Therefore, remember the movie "The most charming and attractive" and engage auto-training. Believe in yourself, your strengths and abilities.
- No need to be jealous and to look at other people's achievements
Consider what you want to achieve. And whether it is right for you? Very often, we try to make a difference with an eye on someone. A friend bought a car? We have written to the driving school, secretly envying her shine in the eyes and enthusiastic talk about speed. But in the end we realize that the road is not pleased everyone. And the responsibility for the car, pedestrians and dashing drivers whizzing past, is a burden.
And well, if we are aware of at the time, when sitting next to the instructor in the training car. If decoys are determined too late, when the new car is already in the garage. In order to sort happened, you need to think in advance about how to make a difference, based on personal requirements and not others' achievements.
Proceed and only move forward
Once we have identified goals and determined to win, we start to implement the plans into reality. It is important to understand a simple thing: before change lives for the better, it is necessary to change the very beginning. And the transformation must come from within. You need to fix the character, to get rid of bad habits. Only after all this automatically starts to improve all around. And only after you move a full order in life, you can make a plan for further action. After all, the only way you will be able to achieve its goals.
So, to start zateyte cleaning the apartment. Throw out things that you do not wear for more than two years. Go through the dishes. Think about why you are three and five teaspoons coffee sets? Do you want to transfer a daughter or daughter-in inheritance? Maybe for you it is of great value, and for them - the usual junk that will take up space and gather dust on a shelf. You think kits will be useful? Is not it easier to get a nice one that you use constantly.
Remember once and for all - not yet rid of the trash, do not acquire new things. You will not move forward, to dream and plan, if you do not throw out of my head all sorts of nonsense. Why buy new furniture, sofa, even if it's nothing. Just think, it is more than your mother or grandmother.
Plus, an endless mess, a large amount of debris would disorient you. You will begin to rush to extremes, grab a few things at once. Depression, apathy, low self-esteem - it is only a small list of what an ordinary disorder can cause.
- We forget about those you do not need
The same applies to our social values. Stop to hold the people who you will never come in handy. Friends with whom you are in the institute were thick as thieves, now live their lives. And do not be imposed, constantly call and talk if they do not show much enthusiasm.
Your husband loved you for your beautiful hair and luxury shape? Inspect yourself from head to toe and think you would have liked him to be what it is now. The soul, of course, is good, but the appearance plays an important role. Wrinkles in this case did not spoil her. But if you dyed your hair the last time six months ago, and things to buy before the baby is born - everything is very bad.
Watch out for him. Sign up for a manicure, haircut, massage. Go shopping. Be sure to start the fitness club to throw off excess weight and get rid of the wrinkles on the body. Believe me, even the employer will be more pleasant to deal with well-groomed, even a middle-aged lady with a young lady than neglecting elementary hygiene.
Adequately perceive the world
So the first - you must learn to change the attitude to any situation and actions of another person (of course, from negative to positive). For example, a child without permission including laptops and accidentally deleted all your important documents. Previously, you would have put the kid in the corner for a long time argued with home because not followed, tried in vain to recover the files. And the atmosphere in the house would leave much to be desired. The child is crying, relatives are angry, you are nervous, too. Not a very pretty picture, is not it?
Now let's look at the situation from the other side. Kid erased data from your computer. Who do you blame? That you do not keep up with the baby and left it unattended (even for a short time). The little man, and that was enough to make mischief. And if he had not climbed to the notebook, and, say, to an outlet or wire?
Also, you left the equipment unattended. Really it was difficult to remove the laptop from a field of view of a child? And the home is not being. They have the same number of rights and duties, as well as you. Therefore, if you are to blame for the situation happened, why frustrate the evil in others? We agree with this view? So, who should be put in a corner? You and only you!
Five or ten years ago, you could not get in the majors, and now you're afraid to send your application? Enough experience! Perhaps, then HR manager was not in the mood, you had not enough experience, this job does not match your ambitions. Now things have changed, including the capacity and age, so feel free to go in for an interview. So do in all other cases. After all, if you look back, you will minimize neck. Learn to distinguish between past and present.
Think about how often you go on about friends, relatives, acquaintances? Can you deny to others, without feeling guilty? Perhaps you did not even notice for such a spineless. But it can destroy your life, career, family and personal happiness.
If you count, then a third of what you are doing (and even more), not due to your needs or preferences, and desires of others. Of course, this does not mean that you should forget about the rest, ceasing to pay attention to children, parents, husband. To live only for themselves - boring and uninteresting.
The main thing - to be able to balance between what you want and you have to do the rest. It's one thing when you come to the rescue of her friend, who can not sit at home with a sick child, as her hands on deck at work. But to do it every time it needs to run for a manicure - recklessly.
Do not know how to say "no" - a sign of stupidity, lack of respect themselves and their desires. Learn to distinguish a request for assistance from the impudence. Do only what your heart tells you. And do not force you to carry your robot can only bosses that you pay for it is not bad.
Be able to plan and dream
- Identifies goals, make it more specifically
Want a new car? Describe what kind of model would prefer to see in the garage. And even better - get the picture you liked the vehicle and hang around your desktop. Every day, looking at the photo, you'll tune in to their dream. In this case, it will achieve much simpler.
This item is in something like the previous one, but it is more detailed. And it needs to carry it after you have learned to specify your goals. Write - how should change your life for the better. You move into a new apartment in the city center? You find good friends? You will work for a prestigious and highly paid job? Describe each item, paying attention to detail.
Now mark the deadline for achieving each particular goal. When and where it will move? And in a few months you will find a new job, which will bring a steady income? The more carefully you will register a plan of action, the better and faster it turns.
Sometimes certain desires seem delusional. Normal accountant did not even dare to think about what could have been a good leader in a large company. A family, for many years been renting an apartment, not even hoping for own corner, believing that the property is now expensive and can not afford. Although conventional mortgage would solve the housing problem. Naturally, you have to pay. It is one thing when you give money to a stranger for an apartment that will never be yours. And quite another situation when a person buys from the bank's own housing.
But, of course, dream of doing nothing - is not enough. Otherwise we would all be rich, famous, successful and loved. If you are dreaming about their own housing, buy a newspaper advertisement, sign a contract with a real estate agency, go to the bank. Any move you closer to your goal. Your agent will advise reliable option for lending, will talk about the intricacies of buying a property, select an appropriate cost and layout of the apartment. However, remember the mood. Failures should not you roll with the desired direction. We decided to radically change their lives for the better? Change, no matter what.
And do not stop there. We moved into a new apartment? It's time to think about giving. Bought a car? So, we need to go round the world trip. No need to feel sorry for yourself and give time to rest. Spent force restored as soon as you realize that goal is finally achieved.
- Believe that it is time to themselves to change something
To the usual daily routine turned into an interesting and eventful life, you need to let the gray days in the fresh wind of change. Think about what you want to achieve before, but never did due to family circumstances, because of the lack of free time and internal barriers? Maybe learn to play guitar? Or to learn English? It is time to revive the long-standing desire. Sign up for a course of the game on a favorite tool or hire a tutor of foreign languages. A new hobby will allow you to buck up and look at the world around you with different eyes.
Forget the word "tomorrow"
Laziness, unfortunately, the main enemy of a better life! Do not put off until later what you can do it today. Get up and go to the training center, bank, real estate agency, auto. Try to load the maximum a day so that the goals have become even closer.
Imagine that you live last week. What would you have done? So do what you can to bring you to your goal. Of course, the bank will be in place in a week. Yes, and they'll give you a loan and tomorrow and next year. Bank employees do not care whose apartment you live, and it looks like the home of your dreams. Do not delay anything for later. Begin to me right now.
By the way, remember a well-known truth - who gets up early, that God gives. Set the alarm for an hour or two earlier than usual. So you can keep up with the day to do a lot more things. Do not feel sorry for yourself. Remember that lying on your side, success is not achieved. No one will come to your home and say, "Hey, did you dream of a separate two-bedroom apartment with a gorgeous panoramic view of the sea? And I just have a good option for you. And with the bank for a long time all issues are solved. " It sounds silly, right? But this example shows clearly that all the problems to solve for you.
To begin, try to get at least an hour earlier. A nap before dinner, you can then, when you live in a new apartment. If you want, of course. After achieving one goal, you start wanting more. That's how the man: he can not be content with little. After all, there is no limit to perfection. Moreover, in ten years you want to help children and grandchildren with the implementation of their dreams.
Try not to associate with those who do not believe in you
If you make it virtually impossible (for example, in the case when you have doubts or second half of the parents), then stop sharing with them his plans. Want to improve your life? Perfectly. Do this in silence. And if they talk about dreams and thoughts about the future, only those individuals that have exactly the support and give practical advice.
The same applies to communication with unpleasant people. Grumpy neighbor, whiner colleague, ex-husband, playing on the nerves - all send to your ignore list esp. You do not need a negative at the time, when you go to its target. And then you yourself will notice how your life was the light without energy vampires, acting as a classic fly in the ointment. We want you to get pure honey at the end of the experiment, is not it?
Be flexible in the implementation of the desired
Of course, three-room apartment in the city center - it's great.