"I broke up with a guy I do not know what to do," - these words often spoken girl who lost her love. In their souls reign longing and loneliness, they can not accept the fact that the favorite, native people refused relations. This loss makes testing with nothing comparable to the pain, which is very difficult to drown. And let all say that time heals all wounds that will take months, years, and everything will be forgotten like a bad dream. But you need to live it here and now, and it is in these difficult days to find the strength to overcome the internal crisis.
What if broke up with someone she loved? First of all, we note that we must act in the event that you have met the object of his love for a while. And if all that you had - one night of love, after which he disappeared in an unknown direction, any attempt to bring it back and make love yourself senseless. And if your relationship was serious enough, but you had to leave for some reason, then you need to act. You perfectly know their situation and need to understand that there are two options: the first - to try to get it back, the second - to force myself to forget about it and continue to live on. What exactly do in this situation, you decide, but we will look at both options.
How to return after leaving for a Man
Before taking any action for the return of a Man, seriously think about it: is it worth to you to do it? Did you love him so much that they are willing to fight for your relationship? Sometimes it happens that the girl after the break with a man suffers at all from what he left, but from the fact that it is dropped. Wounded pride does not give her peace of mind, and tears spilled was not from boredom and resentment and despair. If this is the case, then it is not necessary to fight for the love of a man of the past. It just was not your prince on a white horse, and very soon you will find another, more happy love. But if your heart hurts the pain of loss and you have no idea how to live without this person, you should try to bring back his beloved Man.
Very often, love girls who want to return the young man make the same mistakes. They want in whatever was to prove his love, and to explain to the young man how much he lost. And here is where the nightmare begins: girls pour bitter tears in front of a guy begging to return, swear eternal love. Even if your feelings are, then do not do it - why grovel before a man? Believe me, guys like girls with self-esteem, and to grovel before them is not necessary. If he feels sorry for you, then you are ready to take that feeling instead of love?
And what can we say about promises to commit suicide? From these women men run without a backward glance. Who needs a mentally unbalanced person, blackmails Man terrible promises and actions? And not add you honor such behavior. If you decide to humiliate or blackmail, someday you will be very ashamed of his rash acts: and the boys did not return, and lost himself.
The first thing you need to do after breaking up with a guy - a good cry, but to a loved one have not seen those tears. Give yourself a break, you need time to "lick their wounds". You can go on a visit to another city - the greater the distance, the easier it is to survive the shock of separation. As soon as you come a little to himself, seriously think about it: why young people leave you? People do not leave just like that, there must be a good reason to break off relations.
If you were indignant and say, well, I did an angel and is absolutely not guilty of anything, it probably played a cunning trick. Relationships are built by two people, and make mistakes, as a rule, also two. Some more some less, but I consider myself completely innocent of the severance of relations is hardly possible. Making mistakes - quite naturally, you only need to understand what you did wrong.
Perhaps you allow yourself to flirt with other guys or contemptuous attitude to his hobbies. It is likely that you do not attach particular importance to their actions, but your guy they could have fatal significance. Think also about what you do not like your attitude toward the young man. Write on a piece of paper all the pros and cons of a loved one - it will help to understand more clearly a picture of your relationship. It is possible that you will at all disappointed in my guy and decide that the game is not worth the candle. But if once again make sure that your man - almost ideal, we should not give up.
If you really want the guy back, try to get rid of the main claims. After a few days or weeks after breaking men tend to forget the insults and realize that parting lost more than gained. But what then prevents them back? And this fear to hear the claim, because he is sure that you will take it back only after a thousand apologies and claims vows that he will change dramatically. And that their male pride can not afford. That toil two unfortunate lovers into each other man, and can not communicate due to the ridiculous reasons.
Nobody says that all his bad deeds and bad character traits you need to turn a blind eye. Change it, perhaps, and never will, but slightly correct behavior after you'll be together - easily. Just a time for everything, and thinking about how to return the guy, do not pre-compile a list of requirements that scare him to death. Until we have a completely different purpose.
Try again become the girl, which was once in love with your boyfriend. What attracted him to you the most? Cheerfulness, sense of humor, ability to communicate? Throw away your melancholy and start to chat with friends, be cheerful and happy. Maybe your boyfriend can not wait to see the stamp of sadness and despair on your face - so try to surprise him! Let him think about why it is you're after breaking suddenly blossomed as a May rose. Seeing what other people are drawn to you and that you are the center of attention of his friends, he perforce wants back closer to you.
Pay special attention to their appearance, hit his favorite shape to the heart! You can try to call it jealousy, but doing so is not always possible. If your guy does not think to pay attention to you, the presence of an opponent can not touch it at all. On the contrary, thought that your heart is occupied by someone else, he can stop trying to get your location. And if you have parted on the grounds that flirted with other guys, then experiment with jealousy is not worth it. But if you feel you are in the heart of a young man living crumbs former love, you can take a chance and call it a sense of rivalry.
If in your heart to the young man you still indifferent, then you have every chance to get it back and to resume relations. Try not to step on the same rake again, because love is much easier to maintain than its return. But if attempts were unsuccessful, and you realize that he no longer loves you, then you need to find the strength to survive this loss.
How to survive the separation from loved Man
So, your parting with your favorite guy - final and irrevocable. You could understand this as soon as he was gone, either after several futile attempts to revive the relationship. Very easy to go through parting with someone you love. When one thought that no longer have to wait for his call, he will not come to you in the evening and was not invited to a meeting, the heart shrinks from the unbearable pain, and you just do not know how to live.
Now it's hard to believe, but after a while you feel relieved, and thought about the lost love will not torment you. But in order to live up to this blessed time, you need to work a little on himself. Naplakal enough and reprimand to the closest people, try to calm down and take life into their own hands.
Reminiscing about happy moments that you spent together, think about this: Do you love him in these memoirs, or is it - a common longing for a sense of happiness? After all, if you were good, and now - bad. But does this mean that your man - the only man in the world that can give you joy? Perhaps you are suffering not because of him, but because of the fact that out of time romance, tenderness and happiness? All of us want to fly on the wings of love and feel the excitement of meeting with the beloved, but not always we are able to soberly assess the merits of his partner: Is this the prince on a white horse, which we have dreamed of all my life?
In any case, everything must be done to the heart ceased to ache with longing and loneliness. Get rid of things that remind you of your favorite guy. At first glance, the idea that you need to throw away all of his gifts, seems blasphemous. But it is necessary to ensure that it is no longer the image of the invisible pursued you everywhere. Get rid of the cherished things that he gave you, return it to the forgotten things, stop listening to the music he loved. At this point, all that is connected with it, gives you a sense of his presence, as if there was no separation. But the longer you will cherish your pain, the worse will be the return to reality - the place where he is no longer with you.
Do not spend time alone, you now the air is necessary to communicate with people and new experiences. Go for a walk, to the movies, meet friends. Set a goal to be achieved in the near future: a new book to read, learn to knit, to begin the study of a foreign language. All new and interesting that comes into your life, not only help to forget, but also raise your personal self-esteem, because you finally do that so long delayed.
Many contribute to increased self-esteem and an updated appearance: Down with tearful eyes and gray complexion! You now have full of time for myself, I dedicate it to care for themselves. Make a new hairstyle, learn a couple of techniques of make-up, buy something fashionable and sexy clothes. And when you happen to meet with the former, it will appear in front of him not to cry, heartbroken woman and blooming beauty, which everything in life is good.
And another piece of advice: do not start up in a new love affairs, yet the pain of breaking up with your boyfriend does not subside. You will not be able to adequately respond to the new courtship and feelings of the young man, because in my heart will think about her ex. Do not make mistakes, hurting any innocent guy, and do you not happy with their own feelings. New love - that's fine, but only when the old feelings runs and allow your heart to love again.
The girl who found the strength to forget the bygone love, worthy of respect. For now her heart is free and ready to meet a new love. Perhaps the fact that your boyfriend left you - the good, and not sorrow. After all, he opened in front of you the way to true happiness - a man who will love you with all my heart, as you deserve.